As well as seizing every opportunity to talk honestly about parenthood and faith I’m really passionate about talking about relationships and marriage. It takes a lot of hard work to communicate well and to be really intentional about caring for someone else emotionally and I think it’s great to be honest about that and learn from each other. So, this series is the start of a slightly more lighthearted look at marriage but I am also going to start sharing some of what I’ve been learning and reading about when it comes to relationships too.
My husband and I go through phases of being really good about intentionally carving out ‘date’ time. We’ve had periods where we get the diary out at the start of each fortnight and pick which nights are ‘ours’, but inevitably a month or two will pass and we’ll suddenly realise life carried on and we forgot to check our diaries to plan time. We’ve been doing a free four-part marriage course over the last few weeks (we’re onto part 3, I’ll share it with you all once we’re done) and found we’ve really relished setting aside quality time each week to focus on us again so we’ve now designated Tuesday nights as our ‘date nights’.
Do you remember, a few years back, when it was suddenly really popular to do the A to Z of dating? You planned date nights and worked your way through the alphabet, e.g. A for go to an Aquarium, or do Aerobics (not my idea of a date) on 26 different dates. Well, as per most crazes, we missed it when it was cool and we thought we’d try it now. My parents and my brother and sister-in-law have both attempted the A to Z of dates, my parents getting to C and my bro and sis-in law to D. So, our aim is at least to get to E!
I love any kind of inspiration for intentional quality time together so I thought I’d share our dates with you just in case they are at all inspiring. (I’m planning alternately from B onwards so also feel free to give me your ideas!)